We are constantly told that controlling your anger is the way to be healthy, but this isn’t always the case. When we try to calm down when we’re angry, we suppress the emotions, hiding our most authentic selves. When we suppress ourselves, we cannot speak our truths because we force our thoughts and feelings inside and tell them they aren’t valid.
Here’s why expressing your anger is better than calming down…
Embracing Anger
Anger, being a natural emotion, is entirely valid. However, if something made you angry, there is a reason for it. Perhaps a boundary has been crossed, maybe you feel disrespected, or perhaps whatever event caused the anger triggered a trauma from your past that you’re ready to let go of.
Things come up in our lives when it’s time for us to face them, not a moment sooner and not a moment later. Yes, even anger.
When we are about to level up energetically, it is common to be triggered into the next level. We get triggered because the Universe and our guides need to know we’re ready to let go of our old ways once and for all.
Allowing Expression
Expressing yourself is a natural thing. In fact, your soul craves to be expressed to your highest truth. Yet, keep in mind that there are ways to express your anger healthily without causing another person pain. Now, this doesn’t mean that you will always be perfect in the heat of the moment. However, anger expressed at that moment can teach you many things if you pay attention to it.
- What words are you saying? Listen to the words you say and paying close attention to them, you may not mean them, although at the moment, it is your highest truth.
- How are you saying them? Are you saying these angry words out of spite? Or in a way to belittle the other person?
- How do you feel when you say it? After you say what you think, do you feel like you didn’t mean to say it?
If you answered any of these questions other than, “I was saying this expression completely out of love,” it is pointing to trauma to address. For example, if you constantly feel disrespected, that feeling becomes an argument. You likely felt disrespected or even invisible sometime in your childhood that is coming up now.
Expressing Healthily
If you don’t want to argue back, that’s good too. Either way, you can express your anger naturally and healthily to get the emotions out of your body to move forward with peace and clarity.
The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a healthy way to express all the emotions you are feeling and heal your trauma without hurting another person. This is how you can express them solo without another person being around.
Like acupuncture, EFT works by releasing energy by applying pressure to specific points on the body, but don’t worry, no needles are required. When you are doing the EFT method of healing, there are nine energy points on your body that you tap on to release the energy stored in them.
Here is a diagram of the 9 points:
Whenever you feel the emotions start to arise, excuse yourself, then go to the bathroom and tap on these points while saying the things that are making your feelings boil. You may feel crazy at first, but you’ll feel much better when you’re done.
Remember to counteract those angry thoughts with love when you’re done getting all the anger out. Close your eyes, then put your hands over your heart and remind yourself how much you love yourself, the Universe loves you, your guides adore you, and your god(s) love you. Adding the love afterward solidifies your progress and ensures that you will not continue to feel angry throughout the day.
Conclusion
Anger is entirely natural and should not be suppressed. Therefore, it is best to express your emotions to get them off your chest and out of your mind. Expressing yourself allows you to heal past trauma and grow in ways you haven’t been able to before. Remember, when in doubt, tap it out. The emotional freedom technique (EFT) tapping method has been designed to help you express these emotions healthily.
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“Fear, anxiety, arousal, and pain; all are emotions and sensations. They are neither right, nor are they wrong; good nor bad. They are simply passions, a most important part of life. Feel them, fully experience them, surrender to them, and learn to accept them.”
andré chevalier
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